Most women dream of becoming a mother. However, the pregnancy does not occur, although they are completely healthy. There are such representatives of the fair sex who are afraid to get pregnant, drive the thoughts that they will someday become a mother. All these women have no readiness for motherhood. Let’s figure out what this concept means and how to form it.
The concept of "readiness for motherhood"
The adoption of the mother’s position is an important indicator of personal maturity. Psychological readiness for motherhood is considered as a deep education of a person, ensuring a successful pregnancy and bearing a child, as well as a positive attitude towards him in the subsequent.
This characteristic is affected by the following conditions:
Age. For most girls, readiness is formed after 21 years.
Family status. In marriage, the adoption of the role of the mother is easier, becomes natural.
Material prosperity – gives a sense of stability, tranquility in the future.
The presence of other children. The experience of interacting with babies has a positive effect on the desire to become a mother again.
It should be remembered that each personality is unique, and therefore not always the implementation of the listed conditions can affect the formation of readiness for motherhood. It happens that a woman at the age of 38, having two children, is never finally ready for the role of her mother. Conversely, a girl at 18 has a completely developed trend, internal maturity in order to give birth and raise a child.
Data of psychological research
In psychology, the problem of readiness for parenthood is quite popular. The following ties were identified in the studies:
Women who felt happy had a high indicator of readiness for motherhood;
Personal anxiety reduces the desire to have children;
Education in a full family (there were both father and mother) increases the level of readiness;
The presence of knowledge about the development and education of children has a positive effect, then the woman feels inner confidence and is easier to enter the position of the mother;
Fear of labor pain reduces readiness for motherhood;
The negative impact is exerted by inadequate perception of your own body, the denial of the physical "I". The indicator of this is that the woman does not like herself, seeks to change her appearance.
Development of readiness for motherhood
The most important role in this process is played by true motivation. Distinguish external and internal motives that encourage the birth of a child. The pressure of relatives, the desire to be the same as friends is external aspirations that cannot form internal readiness. True motives should be the need for continuation of oneself, a kind, the desire to give life to another being, the desire to convey his knowledge and skills to him, anticipation of the joy of communicating with the baby.
A woman should make herself happy, be able to cope with stress and anxiety. In this regard, good helpers are all creative hobbies – knitting, embroidery, coloring, felting from wool.
In conclusion, I would like to note that next to her, “right” man, any woman blooms and is ready to give birth to the desired child.